Relationships...

[Thesifer]

So.. After Being gone for 6 1/2 Months in support of Operation Iraqi Freedom.. I get home.. and After 4 Days.. my girlfriend breaks up with me .. (although stating she still loves me .. and somehow actually meaning it .. go figure) .. she said.. "It just doesnt feel right" .. So.. anyhow..

Thats the First part... now the other interesting part


So.. we had a trip planned to San Francisco from the 14th - 20th or so right?...
Well obviously that was cancelled ...

So.. now the good part...

I reserved a plane ticket Home (oklahoma) that night .. after cancelling the Reservation for the room in San Francisco..

I get the tickets.. I get on AIM today.. and Tell my friend (in oklahoma) .. "Hey.. im gonna be home on Leave from the 11th - 25th " and He is like " Oh.. You didnt buy the tickets Already did you?" so Of course im like "Yeah.. ?? " then he said

"PHUCK!!!.. Joel and I have tickets to Fly out to California to visit you as a Surprise.. from the 9th- 14th.. " ..

yeah.. go figure.. So I guess she also knew about this .. And helped them set it up.. but when I said I was going to change the reservation.. and fly home.. she never mentioned to wait or anything (and we are still sorta friends.. if We were arguing or not talking after we broke up.. I could see that .. )

So.. anyhow.. ive been on hold for an Hour now.. trying to change my Tickets.. cause my friend cant change his dates.. since he already has his approved leave from the Army.. for those dates...

Talk about a GREAT Homecoming!!

[chrissy]

Aww crap!

Sorry to hear!

I know it was hard when Donnie was in Korea for a year. He took his PC over with him and we talked online and also fought a $500 phone bill every month. (imagine the bills I could have paid off!!)

A good military gf or wife (or even husband) will support and understand when one is deployed. I have seen a lot of relationships go south because of deployment. You will find one that understands My dad found my mom and he was a sea-man too Heck, if it wasn't for someone setting a small fire on the boat, he would have left again and I wouldn't be here

Have fun on leave and don't get too many tatoos! (and welcome home!)

[hoey222]

dang - thesifer got a "dear john......"



suckage.........

stay strong - let us know what happens with the tickets

[Ladogaboy]

Originally posted by chrissy
A good military gf or wife (or even husband) will support and understand when one is deployed.

Or a good SO in general.

Depending on how you feel, I'd also say that you should avoid her for the time being. Even if you guys are okay with being "friends" right now, take some time off from her. Don't talk or communicate with her for at least a couple of months. And don't harbor any ill-will towards her if possible.

My ex was my best friend at the time we broke up (and I was her best friend too), so we both made a concerted effort to maintain our friendship. That was a big mistake. Let's just say that a little over 4 months later, she is on my blocked list for AIM. If we would have just kept our distance, who knows? But now, as it stands, I'm out gf and a bestfriend all at the same time.

Of course, if you don't care to maintain anything with her--in my case, it was almost a 3 year relationship, and we both considered our friendship to be top priority--, then do whatever you want in regards to your relations with her. Just make sure not to do anything that you might regret later.

Anyway, I'm sorry about your situation, and I hope it all works out for you. After all, a sailor without nookie is, well, just an unhappy sailor.

[nickel]

that sux Thesifer. did you hafta go through some counseling before you could "go home"? i know there was some military base where a bunch of soldiers came home and three of them ended up killing their wives/gfs because of infidelity or whatever. so i thought now it was a new government thing to counsel before you can actually "come ashore".

[Thesifer]

couseling is Optional.. i didnt do it

[ufcrusher]

Sorry to hear that. I dont know which would have been worse, to do it this way or to have broken up with you while you were deployed? At least this way, you had someone to think of the entire time you were gone...but then again, you could have had some real fun while you were there.

Either way, keep you chin up and your ammo dry. Something good will end up happening soon.

[Thesifer]

shrug... it would have been better before.. believe me ... australia is a nice place