Those who have apex'd a while know I am a nice guy. I am married (11 years) and even did the whole white elephant christmas gift thing last year (Jenny, what's the scoop on this year?). I am a part of the Apex community, not just someone getting on this site for attention. I just found out by accident (parents gave me a digital camera with a memory card that had residual data) that my dad is having an affair. Not just an affair but a whole domination/sub thing (I don't know how that works) and has been doing this for years even though he has been married for 32. I am crushed. He has been a great dad and husband and very supportive, but I have all these photos and letters and here is this completely different and scary person. He calls himself "Master" (WTF???) and I am pretty freaked to say the least. Help APEX community! Give me some advice. I am seeking outside advice too, but anonymous advice is always helpful since you guys can share your experience, strength and hope.