How can I change my outlook on life?

[JackHammer]

I'm such a miserable bastard. I would like to change that. Any idea how I can do that?

[oblongmelon]

don't. We need variety. Life stinks. Nothing ever goes right-and then you die. LOL...CHILL OUT.

[ray]

Quit your job, like I'm going to do.

[Nija]

how to change your outlook?

Well, you could un-install it, and go with Eudora, or Thunderbird.

[nickel]

I'm such a miserable bastard. I would like to change that. Any idea how I can do that?

well recognizing that you are a miserable bastard is the first step.

i need more details though... why do you think you are such a miserable bastard?

[redcolours]

i really dont exactly know how you feel, but i know how it is to be miserable.
i think youre not miserable enough (no offense).you NEED to be more miserable than what you are now.

this is my point: if you become MORE miserable, there will be a point where you just cant take it any longer, and then you realize that its no good living that way, that you tend to push away people you love and people who love you, or they begin STAYING AWAY from you (ive been on both sides of that coin - its ugly either side). think about it : NO ONE wants to be with a miserable person - i know i dont wanna be with one. i'll listen to your problems and offer help and GIVE help (im a friend, and friends do that), but if you wanna keep kicking a dead horse, be my guest. ill wait, but i wont be around close to smell the carcass.

and hopefully by THEN you will start to feel a need to change, thereby allowing you to see better outlook in life. (hey, maybe this IS that lowest point in your misery, no? )

either that or you end up being REAL stupid and killing yourself cuz of wallowing in misery (boohoo). at that point you just proved to everyone how weak you are.

so after feeling super-down and hitting rockbottom, go out there, and do new things. keep your mind occupied, and your hands busy with it. meeting people is always a good way to get anyone out of misery, but it usually just comes out of simply doing something new.
people who truly know me know how moody i can be, with my bouts of misery and fits of joy. i think im manic-depressive, but im not a shrink, and i dont care. its not easy to force myself out of the blues, but i can do it. awareness is key - i found out what ails me and that helped me to a less miserable (and happier) path. to each his own, so you gotta just find yours.
here, this is what people seem to do:
http://gotapex.com/forums/showthread.php?t=77000

but the truth is, you just have to find some worth in yourself first. find some pride in what you do. if not then find out what makes you feel miserable, and find a way to get rid of it. my old job of 8 years got real boring on the 5th year, but didnt realize it until the 7th year, so by the 8th year i found a great job, and ive been less misreable (actually real happier) since.
again, to each his own. good luck!

[brainsmile]

have a near death experience... go to McDonalds

[zippyjuan]

Being depressed can be caused by a lot of things. Not enough sleep is one. Too much stress. Hormone changes. Weather. The one key element is how you look at things. You can go to work or school or where ever and have a great day- nothing seems to bother you. Then another day, everything sucks- no matter what you do. Everything else is the same- it is just how you view it. If something bugs you that you have no control over, let it blow by and don't worry about it- that is someone else's job. When people do stupid things, I don't think "Why the %$@% did they do that?" I just laugh at it. YOU decide if today is going to be a good or bad day. Good and bad things will happen-it is up to you how to respond to them. Being happy can be a consious decision and takes off a lot of strain off everything. "It is all in your mind. Use the Force Luke!" Just start smiling more- the rest will follow.

[Merlin]

You want happiness? Start with a good bottle of liquor and then on to the nudie bar.

[Maarchk]

Perhaps try to go outisde more. The sun makes most people happy. Especially since i moved into an office job out of school, i been more slow moving and down in general. So now i try to get a morning or evening jog or something outside so i can get that good feeling sunshine on me... That or maybe just pound a box of twinkies... Can't go wrong there.

[zenbooty]

If I were still back in San Francisco, I could have gotten you something that would have changed your outlook on EVERYTHING.

But that was another place, in another time...

[molecularfire]

First ask yourself why am I miserable (make a list if it is more than one). Pick something on that list and ask yourself what can I do to fix that. Then do what is necessary to fix it. Then pick another thing on the list and continue the procedure until the list is more empty than you.

[HmpDeeHmp]

GET LAID!!! That'll put you in a much better mood...

or try immersing yourself into a new hobby to help take your mind off things.

[cheapie]

try Jesus.

[johnnymk]

try Jesus.

I have known a bunch of miserable Christians.

However, knowing that this life is just a fleeting experience and that eternal life is awaiting you after death does help quite a bit.

It can take many years after you are born again to apply the truths which are in the Bible which enable you to become an optimistic, peaceful and gracious person.

Some Christians mature very rapidly and some never get it.

Plus the old life and the sin nature of mankind keeps dogging you right up until the day you die.

I still believe that depression is a result of self pity combined with anger. I have had to learn it over and over in my life.

[Mike_N_Ike]

Quit your job, like I'm going to do.

Really? Howcome?

[mrs. paymaster]

Make plans with people - if you're busy having fun, you don't have time to feel sorry for yourself. Make a list of all your positive attributes and stick it on your bathroom mirror. Repeat the list 3 times every morning out loud, and then eat a multi-vitamin, preferrably store brand. Call or email someone who cares about you - friend or family.

[brainsmile]

Mr. brainsmile: Please post more replies of substance. Too many of these nef posts by you in thread after thread.

Sincerely,

-GAM

[johnnymk]

Mr. brainsmile: Please post more replies of substance. Too many of these nef posts by you in thread after thread.

Sincerely,

-GAM

I think brainsmile is funny. He helps to get me out of my depression

[Dave_7]

GET LAID!!! That'll put you in a much better mood...

If that's an option... then go for it.

Otherwise, try doing something to help someone for no reason. Sometimes, doing something nice for someone who you do not know is best... because it tends to have no strings attached. Just a good deed... for no reason.

You'd be surprised how good that can make you feel. No joke.



Dave.