this... is SOOO special... that i had to share.
'kay. so i have to drop eg off for visitation with the biological. luckily, the guy only picks him up about once a month, for one overnight... and apparently, half the time my ex's gf takes eg with her to some friend's house in chicago, while the biological stays behind to "work" (while it's ridiculous that he lies and makes me drop eg off anyway when he's not even going to see the kid, when it comes down to it, i'd rather eg be with the gf than the ex, as eg really likes her and it seems from all reports that she is very responsible... unlike her bf...)
so. eg hops out of the bath tonight and comes running naked and dripping to tell me, "guess what mom! i forgot to tell you! shane's porch caught on fire!"
mmmmmkay. so, i stay calm, don't really need to ask any leading questions, just act interested and he'll keep running his mouth...
"yeah! we were playing on kristy's computer, and then, do you know what kristy says when the porch is on fire?"
"OH MY GAWD THE PORCH IS ON FIRE! she shouts it!"
so what did she do then?
"well, she went to get a bowl of water to throw on the fire, but it wasn't enough water, so she ran around the house some more, and then she got shane, and they went to look at the fire and try to put it out."
and what were you doing?
"i was looking at the fire!"
where were you?
"on the porch!"
you were on the porch?
"yeah! and then i went outside."
did someone go with you?
"no, i just went by myself."
did they call the fire department?
"no, they just used the hose. and now there's a big hole in the porch!"
anyway. long story short... i ask if the hole is "this big" (showing him a span of about a foot) and he says no, more like this... adjusts to about 2-1/2 ft across. it isn't near the walls (as a wiring fire would probably be). they didn't call the fire department, they didn't call ANYONE, and they don't know how it started. i asked if it was a barbecue grill, but eg said they didn't have one on the porch, they weren't grilling, and they don't know how it started.
so my kid goes to an unsafe old house (i believe they own, rather than rent, so no landlord is going to make sure it gets taken care of properly. i'll be surprised if the hole in the porch even gets fixed), where nobody bothers to find out how a fire started, nobody bothers to get him OUT of the house or pay attention to where he is at all... and i can't do a g**damned thing about it. all i can do is write it down like i do all the stupid sh** the guy does, so i have a record of it should it ever reach a critical mass of stupidity to where the law would actually help me DO something about it.
i think i'm going to start putting a smoke detector in eg's overnight bag, since i doubt there are any in that house. stupid, but then again, it can't f***ing hurt.
yep. can't move too far away from that guy. nor soon enough.