Steph and I have been doing the whole registry bit for the past month or so, she is doing most of the work and I am just kinda nodding along.
One thing I have noticed is how commercial and consumption centric the whole process has become. Stores encourage you to scan the whole frickin place, saying you will get a 10% discount 2 years after and another 5 if you charge it up on the CC.
Another thing I notice is the perception of declining goods quality, especially in the higher "yuppie" segments. Pottery Barn is probably the most disturbing out of all of them. Geared as a quality store, most of their products have a thin veneer of shine to them, with craptastical composition underneath, it seems to fit with the people that work there. Looks good, made of crap, and certainly way overpriced, much like many of the people shopping there.
Most encouraged scanning the whole store, furniture and all. I would doubtful of this, looking at their "worn" furniture, I got the impression that it was garbage.
They also have a feature where you can track who bought what from your registry. I find this really appalling.
Looking at other people's registry seems to see a repeat of this trend. High priced goods stacked in there at the prodding of the stores. People load up on garbage just before they get married, hoping to move into that big condo/apartment where they could fit it all.
I guess I am disillusioned by the whole wedding process. Not with the fact that I am getting married, but by the fact that the process has been so corrupted. Cakes costing in the thousands of dollars, dresses in the multiples of that, flowers costing just as much.
Where does reasonability end and insanity begin?
Steph and I were watching some wedding show on TLC, tracking 3 couples. Two gay guys, a man and woman guido/guidette couple from NJ, and some prissy Boca biotch and her PW'd fiance.
The gay guys had a simple wedding, albiet tacky since they died their hair rainbows. The guido/guidette threatened the late limo driver with "I am going to gut you like a fish".
The prissy boca chick quit her job to plan a 120k wedding full time. The cake alone was 4k, her dress something similar or more.
Then there's one of my college friends (actually stephs friend, mine by proxy). She wants her electrician boyfriend, whom she stole 3k from and kicks out every 9 days, to buy her a 17k engagement ring. Yeah, he makes about 30k, she makes the same.
This whole process has left me dazed and wondering what the hell we are doing as a society. One only needs to look as far as China to see how horrible companies have twisted tradition, thank you DeBeers.