Yet another child/school problem

[Gothic Girl]

So yesterday my son comes home from school asking if he could talk to me. I said sure. He proceeds to tell me that he hangs out with these girls (my son, if you've ever seen pictures, is VERY handsome and always has girls fawning over him) and I guess one of the other boys was very angry about it. So this other boy proceeds to tell Tyler that he was going to kick his butt today.

I called the principal yesterday and spoke with her. She spoke with Ty and I guess this morning they will take care of it. I dropped my son off this morning and wanted to talk to his teacher, but they weren't there. So I just called his class and talked to the teacher. He said that he was aware and would be handling it with the Principal first thing this morning.

Come on now, 10 year olds fighting over girls already??? *sigh* It never ends in this household.

[RIVERWIDOW]

I totally believe that 12 is the new 16. If you have been watching the Little League World Series, these kids are prime examples. They have girls trying to follow them into their dorm rooms! Where the hell are the parents of these sluts in training? I know times have changed but have values changed that much? Are parents afraid to teach their kids a little self respect or are they too busy trying to be their best friends ? Added to the problem is girls mature so much faster and sooner than boys. So you have some 12 year old hoochie
trying to hit on a kid who just wants to play baseball. And of course they
are not going to turn the girls away because heaven forbid someone would hear about it and the next thing you know everyone is saying the kid is gay.
I am scared sh*tless because I have 3 granddaughters and one (sex unknown) on the way. I am hoping that there will be a big turn around and P>Diddy will be out and Pa Engels will be popular again.

[Merlin]

So this other boy proceeds to tell Tyler that he was going to kick his butt today.

Well boys will be boys. And from time to time they will get into scraps over pretty trivial things.

[Gothic Girl]

Well boys will be boys. And from time to time they will get into scraps over pretty trivial things.

Yeah, I know, but you should've seen Tyler. He was scare sh#tless. He's never been in this situation before, and he's a pretty quiet kid who wouldn't start fights.

[Merlin]

Just be careful. You may still be able to get away calling to stop it but pretty soon that will just get him into more trouble. For boys having mommy get involved is not a good thing.

[Cubsfan]

Yeah, I know, but you should've seen Tyler. He was scare sh#tless. He's never been in this situation before, and he's a pretty quiet kid who wouldn't start fights.

In that case, teach him how to end the fight

[Jenny]

Josh got threatened by a boy in his class first day this year. It was all taken care of before he came home. I called the teacher just to double check. It's all good now, no more problems. Kid was just kidding or something. heh

[Jeffbx]

Just be careful. You may still be able to get away calling to stop it but pretty soon that will just get him into more trouble. For boys having mommy get involved is not a good thing.

Eh, I dunno - it's different than it was even 10 years ago. Most schools have a zero tolerance policy towards bullying (some of that PC stuff is actually useful!). Just a threat is enough to bring the kid, the parents, the teacher & the principal to a meeting where they hash it out. They'll suspend the kid at the drop of a hat if it goes any further than that, and then kick him out of school if it continues. I'm amazed at how much this policy is stressed at my kid's elementary school.

[kgsilvas]

...it's different than it was even 10 years ago. Most schools have a zero tolerance policy towards bullying ...

You bet! And that "boys will be boys" stuff is just no longer the mindset. About time too! Hope all works out fine for him.

[riskykougra]

Girls are getting waaaaaaay to interested in boys waaaaaaay to young. My youngest son, who is 7, has girls chasing him all over the school ground all the time....since kindergarten. One girl was even trying to kiss him on the bus last year but he is still at the "girls are yukky age"....yay! As for anyone bullying your son keep on it and ask him to make sure they stop because I let my oldest handle his bullies and it went on for years....till he got to be over 6 feet tall at 15 and almost had his black belt...then he almost threw one of them over a huge dam here and surprise, surprise no one bothers him anymore. He is 17 now and hasnt had a problem with anyone since. And before someone says we should of just let the school handle it, we tried, they did nothing. I say make sure your kids are able to defend themselves...not to start any trouble but to make sure they are not the ones someone is trying to throw off a dam for nothing...AND THAT KID DESERVED IT for anybody wanting to say my son was wrong because they tormented him as a group for 3 yrs and he wouldnt of dropped the kid just wanted to make sure he got the message that he wasnt going to take their crap anymore.

[welfareloser]

Girls are getting waaaaaaay to interested in boys waaaaaaay to young.

totally believe that 12 is the new 16.

y'all WISH

it's always been like this. children are sexual beings too not kosher to talk about it, but kids do have romantic and sexual feelings... very different, simpler, but the feeling sare there. yes, i know, somebody has an anecdote about a kids who NEVER felt ANYTHING for ANYONE til grown... blah blah most kids have some degree of those kinds of feelings.

i spent my summer vacation reading quite a few "classics" ... quite a few autobiographies. take maya angelou, for example. "i know why the caged bird sings" ... 1930s. no mtv. kids got crushes. some kids had sex way too young.

anne frank... masturbated and had a crush on a guy. no "p diddy" effect there.

there are plenty of other examples... but you get the point. the only difference that "today's culture" has made is that it is more overt. and yeah, it's easy to decry booty-shaking on every billboard, but overall, i would say that the change is a positive one. girls (and boys) are no longer kept in the dark about how things work, made to feel ashamed of their feelings and desires and bodies... at least, not as a culture-wide matter of course.

seriously... the majority of women older than baby boomers have never enjoyed sex... never initiated it... never or rarely had an orgasm. never had sex with the lights on. never felt sexy. that's a tragedy.

and, i think things would be just perfect it was okay to talk about the feelings that are intertwined with lust... we're still doing ourselves and our children a disservice - we talk about sex, we display it EVERYWHERE, but only in charicature...the "mtv" version of sex. we don't acknowledge the emotions. i think it's because we are still repressed, but want to pretend we're not... the whitewashed version of sex is "safer..." because cartoons aren't real. we can get away with half-naked teens on magazine pages, but an honest national dialogue about the fact that a 12 year old gets horny? eeeeeek, nooooo! because then parents might have to acknowledge that their 12-year-old is one of em




and yeah, things have changed. you can't "stay out of it so mommy doesn't embarrass her son." it simply isn't allowed these days.